Navigating Your Journey: How to Choose the Right Counsellor for You
Making the decision to find a counsellor is a significant step toward improving your mental health and well-being. It can feel overwhelming to know where to start or how to find someone who truly fits your needs. This guide will help you understand what to look for in a counsellor, how to prepare for your first session, and what to expect along the way.
But first: Counsellor or Psychologist?
There is often some confusion around the difference between counsellors and psychologists. There is a common misconception that psychologists are the best option for support. In reality, counsellors are highly trained professionals who offer a very similar and equally valid, approach to mental health care. In Australia, the distinction lies in training pathways, regulatory frameworks, and scope of practice, not in the quality or effectiveness of support.
Psychologists are required to complete a minimum of six years of university study to qualify in their field. Counsellors, by contrast, can enter the profession through a range of recognised and flexible training pathways. These may include diploma-level qualifications, bachelor degrees, or postgraduate studies, depending on the practitioner’s area of focus and professional registration. Many counsellor have worked in other fields and use their bachelor's degree as a launchpad from which to enter specialised counselling training.
Psychologists often take a more structured approach to support through the use of treatment plans with a focus on a specific modality. For example, psychologists might use Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) or Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) as a main approach to treatment. Counsellors also work with different modalities, but they often take a more holistic and flexible approach to working with their clients. This means that your counsellor might choose the modality, or several different modalities, that best suits your very individual needs.
Psychologists are often tasked with providing an assessment and diagnosis for a client, if that is what they are seeking. Counsellors take a slightly different approach, they will notice behaviour patterns and learn about the challenges the client is facing, and will use that to form a treatment plan without a formal diagnosis. Unless the client or a referring doctor requires a formal assessment and diagnosis, the client can choose between a counsellor or a psychologist for mental health support.
The cost of psychology and counselling are similar when you take into account the medicare rebate that can be accessed with a psychologist. The going rate for psychologists in Australia at the moment is around $250 to $280 for a 50-60 minute session. With the medicare rebate of about $150, the client is out of pocket $100 to $130. The going rate for counselling is anywhere from $120 to $180 per hour and so the costs end up being about the same.
Understanding Why You Want Counselling
Before searching for a counsellor, it helps to clarify your reasons for seeking support. Are you dealing with anxiety, depression, relationship issues, grief, stress, overwhelm or something else? Knowing your goals will guide you in finding a counsellor with the right expertise.
Write down your main concerns and what you hope to achieve.
Consider whether you want short-term support or longer-term therapy.
Think about any preferences you have, such as the counsellor’s gender, age, or cultural background.
Decide how you would like to meet with your counsellor; in-person, online, telephone, walk and talk or via sms messaging.
Each counsellor will have a unique way of working with you.Understanding the differences can help you choose someone who matches your style and needs.Being clear about your needs helps you communicate effectively when you contact potential counsellors.
How to Find Potential Counsellors
Start by gathering a list of counsellors to consider. Here are some practical ways to find them:
Ask your primary care doctor for recommendations.
Use online directories such as Psychology Today or local counselling associations.
Seek referrals from friends or family who have had positive experiences.
Make a list of at least three to five counsellors to contact.
Questions to Ask When Contacting a Counsellor
Before booking a session, reach out to potential counsellors with these questions to see if they are a good fit:
What is your approach to counselling?
Do you have experience with my specific concerns?
What are your fees?
How long are sessions, and how often do you recommend meeting?
What is your cancellation policy?
Are you available for in-person or online sessions?
Taking notes during these conversations helps you compare options.
What to Expect in Your First Counselling Session
The first session is often about getting to know each other and setting goals. Here’s what typically happens:
The counsellor will welcome you to the space and introduce themselves.
The counsellor will explain confidentiality and how sessions work.
The counsellor will ask about what has brought you to counselling, collect some background information and let you tell your story.
You will discuss your goals and what you hope to achieve.
You will have the opportunity to ask any questions.
Before you leave, you will discuss your plans for future sessions and book in the next appointment.
It’s normal to feel nervous. Remember, you can always decide if the counsellor feels right for you after the first session.
Signs You Have Found the Right Counsellor
A good counsellor creates a safe, non-judgmental space where you feel heard and respected. Look for these signs:
You feel comfortable sharing your thoughts and feelings.
The counsellor listens actively and shows empathy.
You understand the counsellor’s approach and feel it suits you.
You notice progress or new insights over time.
You feel motivated to continue sessions.
If something doesn’t feel right, it’s okay to try someone else.
When to Consider Changing Counsellors
Sometimes the first counsellor you try isn’t the best match. Consider changing if:
You feel misunderstood or dismissed.
The counsellor’s style clashes with your personality.
You don’t feel safe or respected.
You are not making progress after several sessions.
Changing counsellors is a normal part of the process and can lead to better outcomes.
Tips for Making the Most of Counselling
To get the best results, try these strategies:
Be honest and open about your feelings.
Set clear goals and share them with your counsellor.
Practice any exercises or homework between sessions.
Give feedback about what is working or not.
Be patient; change takes time.
Counselling is a partnership, and your active participation matters.
Final Thoughts
I believe that asking for support is not a sign of weakness. Sometimes life simply becomes too much to navigate on your own, and having someone alongside you can make a real difference.
My approach to counselling is about getting to know you, not just focusing on a diagnosis, a problem or a set of symptoms. I want to understand your experiences, what you're going through and your hopes for change.
Counselling is a space where you can slow down, talk openly without judgement, make sense of what you're feeling and begin to understand yourself a little more deeply. Together, we can explore what might be keeping you stuck and find ways to help you move forward.
If you're wondering whether counselling is right for you, I offer a 15-minute introductory phone consultation where we can have a chat, talk about what you're looking for and see whether I might be the right fit for you.
You don't have to work it all out on your own. I'm here for you when you're ready.
Sophie x
(Counselling With Sophie)
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